The Clique Moms


It’s almost back to school time for my little girl. Time for 2nd grade homework, new teachers and seeing friends from last year.  It’s also now  time for me  to once again encounter the:  “Clique Moms” (insert scary DA DAA DAAA music here).

You know the kind. The Moms who will only speak to other Moms of their kind. Either only other stay at home Moms or went to the same daycare Moms. Or the kind who spot the so-called wealthy from a mile away and flock to them. However, my personal favorite would be the Moms who only will communicate with the Dad’s.  Really?

I remember the first time dealing with this when my 7-year-old went to pre-school.  Even though it was only 3 years ago, I wasn’t as tough about it then.  I took it offensively.  What’s wrong with me?  Why don’t they want to speak to me too?  I just didn’t get it.  I wanted to wear a mask or something to hide from them.  (Not really, but hopefully you know what I mean).  It was just really awkward and uncomfortable and I had only lived through situations like this back in the middle/high school days. 

I am not the clique type. I hold back from eye-ball rolling every time I see it happening.  Saturday mornings at dance it’s like walking into my high school cafeteria all over again. A group on one bench and a group on the other. It’s like living through that sad “seats taken” scene on Forest Gump.

I was able to stay away from clique situations in school.  Kept to myself, had a small group of friends and was nice to everyone.  I was labeled as snobby at first, but once people got to know me they soon realized I was just the shy type.   Anyway, I just never understood the whole “I can only talk to certain people” attitude.  I never thought that I would encounter it again.  Let alone, with other Moms of all people. 

I guess the great thing about clique moms is that I really don’t have to deal with them often.  5 minutes dropping my daughter off at school, or 45 minutes of dance class, it’s really no big deal.  Uncomfortable at first?  Yes, of course.  But, I don’t have to even pay attention.  I’ll still smile and genuinely say hi. 

I’ll also teach my kids to reach out to everyone.  They will know not to just play with certain kids.  They will learn young that when they see that shy, quiet kid in the corner, he/she may want to make a new friend.  Maybe they are afraid to reach out?  Maybe it will take somebody like them to start a new trend?  Instead of cliques, how about they all learn to play nice together?  It will only take a few to start the trend.  Maybe their friends will do the same and then who knows?   Maybe their clique Moms will learn how to do that too?

Maybe… 🙂




2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Colline
    Sep 07, 2011 @ 15:18:53

    I don’t think they will. They are quite comfortable in their cliques. I have noticed, too, though that children tend to mimic adults in creating their own cliques. Kudos to those who refuse to and still socialise with everyone.


  2. Rayford Chappo
    Sep 18, 2011 @ 02:57:32

    My thoughts exactly!


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