My Happy New Year

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I’m a no resolution kind of girl.  I don’t normally like to be caught up in the hoopla of the New Year.  Personally, I have never even been a big fan of New Year’s Eve.  I never understood the big deal.  You can start over any time during the year, why make a big deal on 1/1?

This year, I feel different.  I don’t really know why, I just want to make a resolution.  I don’t want to start it off on a negative foot by already complaining about the resolution fads.  I want to do 2016 right.  By doing 2016 right, I still mean in my living room, with my kids, in my pj’s.  That part of it will never be wrong.

Resolutions though, here are my thoughts:

1.)  I will no longer focus on any person in my life that does not make the same effort for me as I do for them.   I just don’t want to care about it anymore.  Because in reality, I have everyone I need.  My kids, my husband.  A few friends, some family.   And if there is anybody that I have walked away from, it’s for a reason.  I never wake up in the morning and decide to walk away from people that have always been in my life.  Things build up.  When I finally have enough, I have enough.   I don’t.  NO.  I won’t feel bad about it anymore.  Even if they try and reverse it all back on me.  In my heart, I know the truth.  I don’t need to yell it to the world.  I just know and you know what?  I’m at peace with it all.

2.)  Write.  Write, write, write!  I have lost my ability to focus on my dreams.  If I don’t dive in now, when will I?  Do I want to become someone that sits at a desk for the rest of her life, wishing she could go back in time and try again?  Nope.  I really don’t.  I have dreams.  I have goals.  I’m going for them.

3.)  Organize.  I’m done procrastinating, it’s time to finish painting the rooms in the house.  It’s time to finish the basement.  I don’t need old clothes.  I’ve got this, sleeves are up and I’m diving in.

4.)  Love with all my heart.  There will be people that can’t accept love.  They aren’t happy with themselves, so they will push you away.  I’m going to keep pushing back because I have been that person.  Even if the world is bitter, I’m still going to shine through with love.

5.)  Exercise.  The most cliché of them all, right?!  Honestly though, I feel so much better with exercise.  But, I’m not focused on weight.  I feel that all too often there is an unhealthy obsession with needing to be thin.  People become so fixated on themselves, that’s all they begin to see in others.  It eats at you, it makes you miserable.  Find the balance.  Exercise, but don’t obsess.  Be healthy.

6.)  Teach.  I’m going to teach my children everything I can next year.  Whether it be simple or complex, they will always have my most undivided attention.  Even when they are older, I vow to make sure they know that they are always to come first in my life, before anyone or anything else.  They are always going to know how loved they are.

And finally, 7.)  Live.  That one is self-explanatory.  However, we get so caught up with the hustle and bustle of the day to day life, we forget to live.  I’m done trying to get to Friday on Monday.  I’m making the most out of every minute.  That’s why it’s so important to love your work life as much as you  love the life on the outside.

If you lost that spark, 2016 sounds like a good time to find it.

Happy New Year.

xoxo,

Stacy

 

 

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That Spark.

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I’m stuck in the repetitive nature of day-to-day life. Somewhere in between age 18 and 32, I have lost that spark. That spark used to ignite all my dreams and goals.  That spark used to be my motivation to strive for accomplishment in life.

I was going to visit every state, write a book, take cooking classes, photography classes etc.

I am determined to find that spark once again.

I have allowed myself to become so involved in working for the weekend; I’ve lost the spark that could be right in front of me today.

Eat, sleep, get the kids ready, kiss the husband, go to work, repeat.

Life does not have to be a broken record. It can be the best damn vinyl collection you have ever experienced. I don’t know how or when I forgot to live this way, but I’m back to believing in myself again.

I find myself saying, “Oh, I’d love to travel one day. Maybe when the kids are older?” Or, “I’d love to get back into my crafting. Maybe when I am retired in 30-40 years, I’ll have more time.”

You know what? I have time today.   Something just clicked and I am determined to keep my focus. There is no reason that I cannot make time to do the things I’ve always wanted to do. I cannot blame my full-time job, my husband, and my children. The only person holding myself back is me.

You have the same amount of time in a day that every other person has.  It’s how you choose to use it.  Nobody is promised tomorrow, no matter what age you are.

It’s time to dust out the old journal that I filled in at age 17 with all of my goals. My husband, children, home, these are all the best things that I have ever accomplished in life. But, there’s no stopping there. I will find time for me. I will take the time for a class, a new hobby, a second career, and to travel. Your goals don’t need to cease to exist because you are a mom or wife. If anything, with all of your family’s support, your goals should be even closer within reach than before.

Find that spark that you’ve always had, dust it off and let it shine. Set a new goal for every day.

Always MAKE the time.

Xoxo,

Stacy